Words often used to describe pain: Burning, stabbing, searing, mind-numbing, terrible, excruciating.
Words rarely or never used to describe pain: Luscious, lovely, pretty, soft, favorite, cute, giggly, fun.
So pain is ‘masculine.’ All the words to describe it are ‘active,’ the words we use to describe maleness on the binary. The hard words. Pain is never the soft words. Pain is something done to you. Pain is active and we are passive. Pain makes a woman of us because what else could we be when acted upon?